Ep. 089 Loraimy Kendall, Executive Director Dress for Success Northern NJ

Show Notes

It’s not about perfectly naming values or going through an exercise—it’s about how life reveals them to you when you least expect them to. Loss. Parenting. Anxiety. Identity. And somewhere in all of that…you either drift or you start to choose how you live.

What stood out to me is how naturally Loraimy has done the work. She hasn’t sat in a formal “values workshop,” but she’s living it—day in and day out. Making decisions rooted in family, joy, presence, and protecting her peace.

There’s a quiet discipline in the way she approaches life. Not avoiding hardship—but reframing it. Not ignoring emotions—but working through them. Not chasing everything—but choosing what actually aligns.

This conversation is a reminder of something simple—and hard:
You don’t find your values in theory. You find them in how you respond when life hits.

What This Episode Explores

• How major life events (loss, parenthood) shape personal values

• The shift from living for others → living in alignment with yourself

• What it really means to “protect your peace”

• Anxiety, panic, and learning to reprogram your response

• Parenting through values vs. control

• The idea of giving children a foundation—not a script

• Living in the present vs. dwelling in past or future

• Finding purpose through service and meaningful work

• The tension between strict beliefs and balance

• How self-awareness develops without formal “values work”